The Journey Matters

Recently I was waiting in my Subaru for a tall ship to pass under an open drawbridge in Bay City, Michigan. Summers in Michigan are spectacular and this warm August day did not disappoint.  I put my car in park and took delight in being forced to pause for a while – a long while, it was a slow ship – while other people in traffic didn’t appear to be as pleased as I.  I briefly watched my frustrated neighbors feel stuck, shake their heads, throw up their arms, and mindlessly play with their phones.  Nobody was going anywhere fast.

With great joy, I diverted my attention to the sun setting over the water, children playing at a nearby park, a couple biking with a chunky dog along the Saginaw River, and puffy clouds lazily drifting across a fading, turquoise blue sky.  I’m proud to say I didn’t scroll through my iPhone once.  As the drawbridge began slowly descending – as we knew it eventually would – I reflected on how this happens so many times in our own lives.

Love is the bridge between you and everything. – Rumi

We rush too much.  Rush through our 20s and 30s.  Blink through our 40s.  We rush to achieve that big goal and on to the next.  We rush for fear of staying stuck.  Now in my 50s, I understand being stuck is a choice.  The sun will rise and set. The drawbridge will open and close.  My dears, you might as well enjoy the peace in simply being.  Make sure you’re watching the sunset, children playing, and the clouds drift by.  This moment matters.  The journey matters.  Your joy matters.  Yes, dare I say, even more than the goal itself.

 

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys saving women from living a mediocre life, taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.  Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution: How to quit bitching, crush fears, and live your dreams.

 

Gut Check Your Impact

 

Regardless of the type of organization you work at, you will likely find core values and/or a mission statement visible on the walls. But does your organization have an impact manifesto? The word “impact” sounds powerful, even if you utter it under your breath. That’s because working intentionally to deliver impact is powerful.

I’m a fortunate soul. My vocation as a career coach has me guiding others on a daily basis. In fact, doing purposeful work was the primary driver in my transformative career switch from accounting to counseling in 2012. The former was lacking significantly in the impact arena. Since my soul was melting into a puddle on the floor, I decided to change course. Pursuing impactful work that I’m passionate about has been one of the best decisions of my life. The sacrifices are worth it; the rewards are tremendous. It’s what I wish for you.

Fast forward to the present day. Immersed in the belief that I had been making a significant impact through my work, I received a wakeup call. Don’t you just love those?

“To those who are given much, much is expected.” – Maya Angelou

I recently attended a talk led by the founder of Work Alchemy, Ursula Jorch. She challenged us to make an even bigger impact on our work, community, and the world. Jorch posed three simple questions to gut check the level of impact we’re personally and professional making.

  1. How can you make a bigger impact inside of your business?
  2. How can you and/or your business make a bigger impact serving the community?
  3. How can you and/or your business make a global impact?

These are great starters for a strategic planning session leaning in at the table for your business, with a team or just you.

I’m not suggesting you leave your current employer.  However, you must live your life with intention.  Chances are if you are reading this article you are well educated with special talents and abilities.  You can find ways to be impactful outside of your employment.  In fact, you should.  You have an obligation to do so.

It doesn’t have to cost a cent but it will cost your time, energy, and pieces of your heart. Volunteer in your community, mentor, donate your services, or raise a phenomenal child who clearly will save the world. (Well, the latter will cost you boatloads of money and your entire heart; I lied.)

Be honest: Not everyone has had the opportunities that you’ve had. It’s your duty to give back and make a difference. We need you. You can do more. Begin today.

 

To find more information on designing your own Impact Manifesto, download The Impact Manifesto and nab other free resources, visit https://www.workalchemy.com/free-resources

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys saving women from living a mediocre life, taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.  Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution: How to quit bitching, crush fears, and live your dreams.

 

Shut up and write

I’m fresh off a week long writing seminar at the Santa Fe Writers Lab, nestled on the edge of the Santa Fe National Forest – with the masterful writing teacher, Natalie Goldberg – I’m still trying to digest what happened. I figured the week would be easy and fun, sharing our writing, followed with gushing about how fabulous our prose was. Right on? Not so much.

We wrote our asses off for hours each day. Hours. Bared our souls. Read aloud through tears in a circle of 30 participants whose only instructions were to hold space and listen as our voices quivered. Just l-i-s-t-e-n.

Wash, rinse, repeat.

My frustration was palpable. What? No validation as a writer? No cheers about how witty I am? What I discovered was this: There is something totally freeing about writing without judgment. Writing to just speak whatever you think and feel, unedited and raw. What a concept! In a society where we are driven by ‘likes’ and asking am I good enough, I now get what Natalie wished for us:

To simply write for pure pleasure.  This is the practice.

If you write, you are a writer. To hell with the number of followers, published pieces and the Nobel Literature Prize. I’d say the same thing goes for anything you do my lovely friend: if you paint, you’re a painter. If you sing, you’re a singer. If you cook, you’re a chef. Give yourself permission to ‘be’ without judgment from anyone, including you.

And whatever you do, don’t wait until you feel you’re ‘good enough’ to share your writing, to show your paintings, to sing for an audience or to cook a seven-course meal for someone, anyone.

Just shut up and write. ~ Natalie Goldberg

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.

Hoof prints on my soul

Messengers come in all forms and this past weekend, it was a beautiful butterscotch mare named Gypsy with legs of different colors.   Did I mention her round, soulful eyes – mesmerizing deep chocolate pools beckoning me to release and dive in?

Gypsy

Any chance I get, I love visiting Lynn Clifford [horse and people whisperer extraordinaire] at Arrowhead Ranch for her evening equine meditation program.  It’s springtime at the ranch.  The evening is a tad cooler and the wind is just breezy enough to kiss my lips and muss my hair.  Yet warm enough to wear a simple blue jean jacket and ChapStick.

Lynn Clifford & Beth Bryce

 

The horses are quiet and winding down as they munch dinner with the sun descending ever so slowly.  They seem relaxed, pleased almost that they don’t have to work.  Their role is to simply bare witness, be a messenger, teacher, or confidant depending upon how we  show up.

The horses always try to meet you – but only if you are open and willing to introduce your truest self.

Honestly, half the time I watch the other 13 women in silent, walking meditation, and one brave man, as they timidly approach and mingle with the horses pushing boundaries.  Mostly the horses push boundaries, some of us push back.  That’s the beauty of the evening, we have a choice.

But don’t you always have a choice through the twists and turns of life?

As I watch the ladies dance with their chosen partner, I wonder if they are tuned in and listening to the messages the horses are trying to whisper.  Are they brave enough to ask the question they’ve been avoiding for quite some time?

I wander back to my present moment and stare down Gypsy.  We stand face to face for ten minutes watching to see who blinks first.   I’m certain it was me.  I stood there searching for the answer, any answer, to a question I wasn’t even sure I was asking.

Beth’s message depicted

Suddenly, Gypsy’s message was clear, “You already know the answer Beth, you must press on – the world needs more love and compassion, people are waiting.”  In that moment I was flooded with the faces of people I’ve been blessed to work with, family, friends I haven’t talked to in months, some years, all of whom I love.  Deeply.

I realized they are like hoof prints on my soul.  Our exchanges, however brief or long, are imprinted forever.  And for that I’m extremely grateful.  Isn’t that what we are all seeking; deep connection?  I believe so.  On that note, I drove home with a simple smile and a sense of renewal, gazing at the pink and purple mystic New Mexican sunset – like only New Mexico effortlessly delivers.

What or who has been your messenger recently? 

Are you paying attention? 

And how are you living your heart wide open?

Sound fascinating even intriguing?  I encourage you to seriously consider an opportunity of a lifetime to be cracked wide open on a journey of self-discovery at my October Santa Fe retreat, with Lynn and her tribe of horses, Susan Perry and myself.  The magic is beginning, that is, if you choose to show up as your truest self.  I hope you do, the world is waiting on you.

 

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.

Women, Find your inner champion

“We are each responsible for our own life.  If you’re holding anyone else accountable for your happiness, you’re wasting your time.” – Oprah Winfrey

Women are more empowered than ever to rise up, find their voice and take personal responsibility.  Following the headlines on women’s rights and marches, #MeToo, and Oprah’s riveting speech at the 2018 Golden Globes declaring, “A new day is on the horizon”, I’m wondering will we choke on missed opportunity?  We each have a responsibility to be living our best lives, unencumbered by limitations set by others and ourselves.  How are you creating a personal life revolution?

Ten years ago I started my Master’s thesis on the differences in gender leadership to prove women make better leaders.  My results were surprising.  Women and men are equally successful leaders with different skills.  However, men are perceived as superior leaders by both genders, men and women.  Ouch.  Little has changed from my thesis recommendations encouraging women to take personal responsibility for their career advancement.  Ten years of coaching professional women, I’ve witnessed their struggles regardless of background and education.  The top things that block women from advancing are: a lack of self-worth, self-promotion, and personal leadership.

Self-worth – Settling for a mediocre career or not getting paid fairly is directly tied to your self-worth and lack of confidence.  Women are 8x less likely to ask for more money than men.  Salary negotiation, annual reviews, and promotions are opportunities to ask.  Did you know management’s perception of a woman that doesn’t ask for more is she’s not leadership material or intelligent?  Ouch.  Do market research, take a negotiation class, or phone a friend.  Practice in the mirror and repeat after me, “I am worthy.”

Self-promotion – Women work hard.  However, we make the mistake by assuming this equals recognition and reward.  We get angry after an abysmal increase or being passed over for a promotion.  You must learn how to discuss your awesomeness, stellar contributions and your expectations.  Your boss is busy, you can’t assume they know you should be nominated for employee of the year.  Chances are they haven’t seen you in weeks. Start by having a courageous conversation asking for regular 1:1 monthly meetings.  Courageous conversations are politically correct right now.

Personal Leadership – It’s not enough to take action, women must be strategic.  I often hear, ‘I’m too busy.”  While you’re busy taking care of everyone but you, your competition is mining for opportunities, networking with successful people, building teams, and becoming visible. Men do this exceptionally well.  Don’t wait for someone to miraculously hand you a new job or promotion; it’s all on you.

Yes, a new day is dawning.  Will you seize this historical moment and fight for your career success or sit on the sidelines, letting another day pass you by wondering why you don’t have the career of your dreams, aren’t being treated fairly or getting paid your worth?  As the media frequently touts, 2018 is the Year of the Woman!  You officially have permission to find your inner-champion.  I expect nothing less.

 

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.

My Own Life Revolution

“I’ve been absolutely terrified every minute of my life and I’ve never let it keep me from doing a single thing I wanted to do.” – Georgia O’Keeffe, 99

 I bought a mountain retreat home in New Mexico!

For those of you keeping score; Yes, I’ve manifested everything I said I wanted five years ago and wrote about it years in advance in my Women on Fire book chapter, “I’m Marrying Me”…

  1. Walking from a Corporate career and stepping into a new, invigorating, successful, career — loving what I’m doing; coaching, writing, and teaching — blessed to be making a significant impact in people’s lives.
  2. A wonderful employer who believes in me, shares my mission and values, and supports me 1000%. I’ll still be working with the university, coaching virtually from my home and flying back and forth to MI for special events.
  3. An abundant life filled with prosperity; family, friends, opportunities, finances, and health – I even lost 20 lbs recently – once I set my mind to it, it was easy!
  4. Living in a place that fuels me; diverse and rich in culture, art, people, nature, climate, and food…did I mention the food?
  5. Sunshine 360 days out of the year, surrounded by mountains and an expansive energy that is undeniable and indescribable.
  6. My dream home that I found after relentlessly searching since April — that will be a blessed, gathering place for all those I love and who love me; friends, family, clients.

Yes, I did this. Me. I Created my Own Life Revolution,

and You can too!

P.S. Want to create your own Life Revolution? Consider attending my upcoming Santa Fe Retreat, OR join the 2018 Life Revolution Mastermind that kicks off in January OR book your own Masterclass day with me, in person or virtually.

P.S.S. Interested in reading the beginning of the story and my breakthrough journey in 2012? Order your signed copy here!

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.

Hustling in the ‘Gig’ Economy

We are now part of the ‘hustling class,’ always looking for work, evaluating and updating our skills and value, and staying aware of potential future opportunities. – Diane Mulcahy, author, The Gig Economy

Today more than a third of Americans are working in the ‘Gig’ Economy – mixing together short-term jobs, contract work and freelance assignments.  Recent surveys shows nearly 70 million America workers, 43% of the total US labor force, work independently to some degree. Nearly 50 million do it by choice.

No surprise here, workers freed from the constraints of office life report higher levels of satisfaction and greater productivity.  For the brave souls who chose this lifestyle, life has never been better as it offers more freedom, flexibility and work-life balance. For others, the work is risky as they struggle to cobble together sufficient ‘gigs’ to survive and seek self-funded insurance and retirement options.

Succeeding in it starts with a mindset of owning your own career trajectory.  Next is leveraging your skills, knowledge and network to create a portfolio of gigs. Workers who possess strong technical, management, leadership, or creative abilities are best positioned to create a working life that incorporates flexibility, autonomy, and meaning.

Up for it?  Start with building a portfolio of gigs – It’s easier if you have a full-time job or a significant contract assignment to anchor your portfolio.  Not every gig has to pay, they can be volunteer positions that allow you to explore an interest, learn a skill, or pursue a passion.  Here are four types of gigs:

  1. Gigs to get your foot in the door – Not sure how to break into a new field? Find a part-time gig that offers the opportunity to begin the process of meeting and collaborating with people in a new industry or sector.
  2. Gigs to experiment – Use gigs to test opportunities, either continue to invest more time if it’s successful or move on to something else if it’s not.
  3. Gigs to learn by doing – Learn on the job, at your own pace, in lower-risk situations to gain practice and be comfortable enough to smoothly transition to that role.
  4. Gigs to do what you really want to do – Pursue what you’ve always wanted to do to avoid the deferred life plan. The deferred life plan refers to focusing on things we ‘should’ do, while deferring the things we really want to do until…someday (which may never arrive).  There’s a significant chance that we’ll get so caught up in the trappings of the life (the title, the compensation, the position) that we’ll later find it difficult to step away to purse the dream.

The ‘Gig’ Economy is here folks, growing quickly and showing no signs of reversing.  It will continue to grow according to employer surveys as talent scarcity, readily available part times, automations and robotics, and global workforce alternatives become even more prevalent.  Independent work and services will be in higher demand from both individuals and employers.

Good news, the new American dream is evolving in a way that allows people to access the lifestyle they want focusing more on a quality of life consisting of time and experiences rather than a quantity of stuff.  If you have an entrepreneurial mindset, start hustling now, build your portfolio and pursue the career and lifestyle of your dreams.  Speaking from experience, it’s so worth it!

This was adapted from “The Gig Economy:  The Complete Guide to Getting Better Work, Taking More Time Off, and Financing the Life You Want: 2016 Diane Mulcahy

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.

Drop the Ball

Juggling ball

Beware of the barrenness of a busy life. – Socrates

Many times people are stuck in their mediocre lives and careers because they won’t slow down long enough to figure out what truly matters.  Other times they use their busyness as a form of numbing and avoidance to take action.  Insert a vicious circle here.  Like many overachievers stuck in a rut, are you juggling a gazillion balls in the air?  A better question is, are you addicted to busy?  When asked, “How are you?” might your responses include; busy, swamped, or explicative buried?

In a 2013 Harvard Medical School Study, 96% of leaders report they are burned out to some degree, 1/3 rank it as extreme.  Let’s agree to stop being addicted to busy.  I’ll pass along some great advice from my Mother, who was tired of my self-imposed insanity.  She said, “You make your own schedule.”  Well, how’s that for brutal honesty?

Recovery begins with fully acknowledging that you are in charge of your time.  I get it.  There’s work, parenting, caregiving, volunteering, school, chores, and sleep.  Sleep you ask, what’s that?  I’ve discovered the key is not how you manage your time, but how you manage your energy and if you give yourself permission to drop a few balls.

Paula Davis Laack, an international stress and resilience expert, offers an extensive Blueprint for Burnout Prevention on her website outlining six powerful strategies and techniques to effectively self-coach your way back to sanity.  Download Paula’s helpful tips and workbook.

  1. Manage your energy, not your time: Create recovery rituals, 5-10 minute breaks every 90-120 minutes. Know your six sources of thriving; positivity, engagement, relationships, meaning, achievement and health
  2. Clear the mental clutter: Identify the mindsets that undercut your happiness; people pleasing, judgment, lack of self-care
  3. Let go of perfection: Build shame resilience, stop being a maximizer and settle for ‘good enough’
  4. Stay plugged in: Change your job without leaving your job; optimize the job you have, develop quality connections, reorder your day
  5. Develop authenticity: Ignore the critics and identify the happiness myths you buy into that begin with, “I’ll be happy when…”
  6. Believe that you can produce results: Develop self-efficacy by keeping a list of your ‘wins’ and by all means, cultivate hope!

I encourage you to carve out time to design the life and career you imagine.  You have permission to nap often and drop a ball or two! Your sanity will thank you for it and so will your Mom.

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.

Ever Wonder?

curious dog

The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the quality of the questions you ask yourself. Questions have tremendous power. If you want better answers for your life, ask better questions. – Kobi Yamada, author, Ever Wonder

It was December 2004 in Chicago; I was shopping with my mother and best friend in tow when suddenly she surprised me with a gift. Giggling, she handed me a book that she purchased behind my back while I was looking at woolen mittens. I remember the mittens because I was freezing – think Chicago. Winter.

At the time, not only was I cold but I was also struggling to define who I was longing to be. The book, Ever Wonder, helped me beyond measure and taught me a powerful lesson, which is this;

When in discovery mode, learn to ask great questions. Well-crafted questions can stimulate, draw out and guide discussion. Every question you ask should help you either gather facts or an opinion. This from me who is unofficially, “The Queen of Asking Tough Questions.”

Choice Questions include;

  1. Are you the type of person with whom you would like to spend the rest of your life?
  2. Are you living a life of action or reaction?
  3. Do you have enough risks in your life to stay alive?
  4. Is it true that you have to see it to believe it, or rather, do you have to believe it before you can see it?
  5. Have you begun today what you wish to be tomorrow?

Hear me, these are the type of questions to ask yourself, rather than senseless questions like, “Am I good enough?” Yawn. Let’s commit to stop asking senseless questions in 2017, deal?

Ever Wonder, by Kobi Yamada, is a unique book of questions that raises our awareness of our own self-talk and points us toward life-enriching changes.  My dear reader, are you wondering? Please don’t ever stop. Your life will thank you immensely for it.

Stay warm and curious my friend.

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.

Get Out of Your Own Way

Clock
It was 2 o’clock in the morning and minutes away from a book submission deadline when I had a meltdown. The kind of meltdown with wringing hands, tears, and ranting.   Shortly before hitting the “send” button on an email to my editor and realizing a lifelong dream of being a published author, I was overwhelmed with fear and unworthiness.  Classic self-sabotage; I listened to the negative voices in my head.  They whispered terrible things like, “You write like crap.  Why would anyone want to read your story?  You don’t belong here!”

Yes, me.

Have you ever had a dream, after months of hard work, success was knocking on your door only to have you not answer? Contrary to popular belief, accomplishments aren’t realized because of luck, who you know, or your checkbook.  Accomplishments are realized because of a deep, unwavering belief in self and commitment to your dreams.  Sure you could be in the right place at the right time, have support, and talent.  However, if you don’t have self-confidence and take action your dreams are going nowhere.

At 2:35 am, a mentor’s words reminded me to not give up before the miracle happens. I dried my eyes and worked through my fears.    I sat still and focused on my dream.  I realized that I wouldn’t have the opportunity in front of me if I didn’t deserve it.  I countered those negative voices with power words; Worthy. Trust. Believe.  I gulped and hit the “send” button.  Two weeks later my editor responded confirming what I already knew.  She said it was beautiful writing and would resonate with thousands of people and make a difference in their lives.

I’m not sure what big goal you are waiting to hatch? When it does arrive however, recognize any negative voices and turn them off.  Stay your course because you are worth the fight.  Don’t you dare let anyone stop you from your dreams.  Most importantly, get out of your own way my friend.  If need be, call in the Special Forces.  You have my number right?

The moment you’re ready to quit is usually the moment right before the miracle happens.” – Anonymous

 Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.

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