Why Not Reboot?

Why Bother: Discover the Desire for What’s Next,  by author Jennifer Louden is a must-read book on my summer recommendation list for you.  The timing couldn’t be more perfect to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get shit done take no prisoners!

COVID-19 is relentless, millions unemployed, a reckoning for social injustice, businesses tanked, and lives lost.  Did I miss anything?  Perhaps you too are feeling waves of grief and anxiety, and find yourself asking, ‘why bother?’

Rather than ask why bother, how about ‘why not reboot?’

Rarely do I lie down in the dirt and weep, rarely.  But I’ll be honest.  I did a time or two, three, or four this year.  And then I hit reboot in a major way.  Sold a house, packed a house, bought a house, moved across the country during a Pandemic, survived a 500-year flood, and now I’m up to my eyeballs in a major home renovation – all three levels of a split level, mid-century ranch – with walls coming down!  This, in the span of 3 months with a fury I’ve never witnessed in myself.  COVID has transformed my life in a way that I never saw coming.

How about you?  Why Bother or Why not Reboot?  It’s your choice, my beautiful friend.  Transformation awaits you.  I’d love to hear your stories of overcoming the seemingly impossible and how it’s made you a stronger version of yourSELF.

The courage to continue before the face of despair is the recognition that in those eyes of darkness we find our own night vision. ~ Terry Tempest Williams, When Women Were Birds

Check out my upcoming virtual programs (click here), guaranteed to help you reboot in ways that will delight and surprise you beyond your imagination! I’m hopeful that 2020 will prove to be our biggest year of transformation yet.

Why not reboot, indeed!


Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.  She enjoys saving women from living a mediocre life, taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order. Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution: How to crush your fears, unleash your magic, and live your wildest dreams.

 

Make 2020 Your Best Year Ever

“I am not afraid of storms, for I am learning how to sail my ship.”― Louisa May Alcott, Little Women

People often ask me, “How do you manage to crush your huge goals, year-after-year?” 

I’ll let you in on my secret; I don’t sleep. I’m just kidding! I sleep like a baby. No, my secret is creating my annual action plan. I have a killer New Year’s Day ritual that I’ve perfected over the years. Honestly, I am obsessed with it. Briefly, it’s a 5-step process that goes like this:

1. Evaluate the past year – Reflect on your highlight reel. Outline your amazing accomplishments, epic adventures, where you fell short, and why? Celebrate all of it, even the misses. It means you tried valiantly! Reflect on what’s vital for you today as a result.

2. Get clarity on your goals – For the love of all of us, try to pick just three main goals. You do not need 100! You’d be surprised what you can accomplish when you are realistic — just saying.  

3. Create action steps – I then create mini action steps by month and quarter to keep me on track; otherwise, it’s just too overwhelming. I focus on one month at a time. Life happens, steps slide, but I always have a pulse if I’m on track. Always. If you think I am the captain of my ship, in charge of my destiny, you are right.  

4. Create a theme for the year – After reviewing my goals, I determine what word or theme for the year will become my mantra to keep me focused. Some past examples include Leap, Dare, Breakthrough, Creativity, and Liberation! Check out Carrie Saba’s free Ebook explaining how to pick a Word of the Year (here).

5. Putting it in writing! – I put my plans into a 20-page word document, by quarter and have it printed and bound. It becomes my goal bible. Now that I have supreme clarity, I finish with creating a vision board!  

BAM!

Note to self: Before you dive in, set yourself up for success. Block off your calendar and turn off your phone. Line up your favorite snacks and prepare your lunch in advance. Consider roping a best friend into the mix to share crazy ideas and talk through obstacles. As a result, you’ll have an accountability partner going forward. Lastly, have F-U-N! This should be fun.

Are you interested in detailed instructions? Check out The Great Start Programby Women on Fire founder, Debbie Phillips and her husband, Rob Berkley. The workbook also comes with audio instructions. Their banter will delight you. It may very well be the secret sauce to you accomplishing your most magnificent dreams too. I do hope 2020 is your best year ever!

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.  She enjoys saving women from living a mediocre life, taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order. Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution: How to crush your fears, unleash your magic, and live your wildest dreams.

The Not-So-Obvious Winning Edge

What if you could miraculously wake up tomorrow and transform every area of your life? There is a ‘not-so-obvious’ secret that is guaranteed to do this faster than you ever thought possible. Hal Elrod, the author of The Miracle Morning, promises that it only takes six minutes a day. Seriously?

One of the most important concepts ever discovered in the field of human performance is called the “winning edge concept.” This concept states that “small differences in ability can translate into enormous differences in results.” Simply, how you wake up each day dramatically affects your level of success in every single area of your life. Intentional mornings generate productive days leading to a stellar life. Why would you ever choose mediocracy?

An extraordinary life is all about daily, continuous improvements in the areas that matter most. – Robin Sharma

For you to stop settling for less than you deserve and to create the level of personal, professional, and financial success you desire, you must dedicate time each day to becoming qualified and capable of creating what you want.

Hal’s advice begins with establishing a morning routine of six practices for six minutes:

1.   Silence – Get grounded. Sit in silence, meditate and focus on your breath to achieve clarity and peace of mind.

2.   Affirmation – Jot down what you want and why, who you are committed to being, and what you’re committed to doing to change your life. Read daily.

3.   Visualization – Align your thoughts and feelings with your vision. Mentally rehearse what it feels like to achieve your future goals.

4.   Exercise – Motion creates energy. Manage your emotions, enhance your health, self-confidence, and mental acuity.

5.   Learning – Read something for your personal development from experts, those who have done what you want to do.

6.   Writing – Journal. Get your thoughts down on paper to gain valuable insights, ideas, breakthroughs, and lessons learned.

Whether you’re an early bird or night owl, how you spend the first hour of your day becomes key to unlocking your full potential and creating the amazing life and career you desire. When you create a morning practice, you change your entire life. My friend, it’s worth passing on the snooze button. Rise up!

Resource: The Miracle Morning: The not so obvious secret guaranteed to transform your life before 8 AM, by Hal Elrod.

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.  She enjoys saving women from living a mediocre life, taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order. Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution: How to crush your fears, unleash your magic, and live your wildest dreams.

Stay in Your Lane

As discussed in the Entrepreneur article, “Why Powerful Professional Women Don’t Compare Themselves,” social media is a tool meant for connection, but it also has the power to derail the most secure woman with isolation, anxiety, and depression.

Face it, we’re bombarded daily with images of aspirational women who are fit, fabulous, and fearless – with the perfect career and relationships and ‘slaying’ their business.  It’s one version of the truth, the happy version. It’s a comparison trap.

Comparison can lead us down a slippery slope and an immediate reaction to throw a pity party, feel resentful, or inadequate.  We’ve all felt a tinge of this at some point, be honest.  It’s no fun being transported back to middle school not hanging out with the cool kids.  I can testify, I wasn’t a ‘cool kid’ but rather bullied and grew up to embrace my inner-champion.

The truth is confident, self-assured women are focused on their own game.  They are hustling, ambitious, working on goals, building authentic relationships, with no time to check the number of ‘likes’ in the rear-view mirror.  They’re too busy reaching for the stars and making a positive impact in the world.

Stay in your lane.  Comparison kills creativity and joy. Brene’ Brown

Comparison is a fundamental human impulse. While it’s difficult to shut it down completely, the next time you feel like a wallflower, remind yourself how phenomenal you are:

  1. Accomplishments: When you look back over your life/career, what are your top 3 biggest accomplishments? What are you most proud of recently?
  2. Strengths: What are your unique strengths? How do you use your superpowers to make a positive impact in the world?
  3. Creativity: If you could only accomplish one thing in your personal and professional life this year, what would that be?  Focus on your goal, sister.
  4. Joy: What brings you immense joy in your life and work?  No-brainer, schedule more joy time.

Girlfriend, mind your own business. In fact, I’m willing to bet you are pretty cool.  Do they even say ‘cool’ today?  Who cares?  You have places to be, people to see, and magic to create.  Stay in your lane.

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.  She enjoys saving women from living a mediocre life, taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order. Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution:  Crush your fears, unleash your magic, and live your wildest dreams.

Living in Wonder

Our steps are not measured in miles but in the amount of time we are pulled forward by awe.  This is another gift from our national parks, to be led by the vistas, to forget what nags us at home and remember what sustains us, the horizon. – Terry Tempest Williams

Looking to reconnect with your essential self, tap into your deepest desire and experience a newfound sense of peace? In this fast-paced world of technology and endless to-do lists, of course, you are and it’s likely what’s missing from your joy cup. I’ll let you in on a secret: One must go outwards in nature to reconnect inwards.

I’m fresh off co-facilitating a five-day women’s retreat with the Sedona Women’s Institute, exploring three amazing national parks in the heart of Utah. We hiked, marveled at the vistas from early morning dawn to late night star-gazing. We sat in circle and shared our dreams. There was writing, reflection, and laughing in the sisterhood – plenty of belly-aching laughing!

Arches National Park, Women’s Retreat May 2019

One of the things I appreciated the most was the downtime for self-reflection, meditation, and journaling. Our Red Cliffs Lodge luxury cabins were right on the banks of the Colorado River. Horses greeted me on the opposite side. I found myself having conversations with the mighty river, horses, trees, and canyons. Canyons that have been in the surrounding Moab, Utah area dating back 290 million years. Pin drop.

Technology and to-do lists, don’t exist here. Only a profound sense of self and oneness with everything and everyone. That feeling brings tremendous clarity – on your values, beliefs, needs, and dreams…IF you allow yourself to truly live in the present moment. The rewards are priceless my friend.

Whether I’m living in the high desert of New Mexico gazing at the Sandia Mountains, hiking in the Santa Fe National Forest, from Sedona to Moab, the Grand Tetons or Yosemite National Park, or biking on a wooded path in Michigan, this I know for sure: Living, working, and playing in nature is Non-Negotiable for me. I’m my best self in tune with creation – and doing so leads me to the path of wonder and creativity. Funny how that works.

When was the last time you felt a sense of oneness with everything and everyone? How are you living in the present moment? Are you living your best self? Join me, I’ll meet you there.

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.  She enjoys saving women from living a mediocre life, taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order. Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution:  Crush your fears, unleash your magic, and live your wildest dreams.

Crush the Imposter Syndrome

If you experience the Imposter Syndrome because you’re doing well, it means you think success is for other people but not you. Stop telling yourself that lie.

More times than not, I’ve noticed when someone lands the job offer, wins a promotion or is granted an incredible opportunity, they seem shocked. After realizing their success, they freak out and start questioning their ability to deliver on their skills. Now {bleeping} what?

The Imposter Syndrome is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a “fraud.” While it’s commonly thought this applies to most women, recent studies show men equally experience this phenomenon. Men just don’t vocalize their feelings as much. Surprise, it’s genderless.

Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt like an imposter. Honestly, everyone does at some point in our career; young professionals, seasoned leaders, and bigwigs. It’s common for anyone who is reaching for the next level. The key is to recognize your crippling behaviors, feel the self-deprecating emotion and then crush it.

Here are four tips to help you overcome feeling unworthy:

1. Own your success: Stop downplaying past successes. Recognize and attribute them to your hard work. It’s not being in the ‘right place at the right time’ or knowing the right people. It’s your talent and tenacity that got you here.

2. Reduce procrastination: Fear of failure sits at the core of procrastination, not laziness. Having a detailed, action plan breaking up tasks into manageable pieces and deadlines will help alleviate fears and propel you forward.

3. Challenge perfectionism: While incredibly high standards produce exceptional results, it also brings intense stress and pressure. Stop micromanaging yourself and work on setting realistic standards, rather than superhuman. Knock it off already.

4. Talk to others: Having a support network is critical. Speak up to someone you trust when you don’t understand something or have made a mistake. Peers and friends can help you feel normal, boost your confidence and share lessons that they’ve learned along the way.

We both know the success you’ve achieved isn’t because of luck. You’ve worked hard and crushed your goals. As my wonderful mentor, Terry Duperon, told me, “Don’t be the one thing that stands in your own way. Nothing can stop you, but you.”

Stop lying to yourself. Yes, you are THAT good.

For more support on increasing your confidence and whipping the Imposter Syndrome check out these books: Presence: Bringing your boldest self to your biggest challenges, by Amy Cuddy and The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women, by Valerie Young

Resource: National Career Development Association, Winter 2018, Volume 35, 1

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.  She enjoys saving women from living a mediocre life, taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order. Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution: How to crush fears, unleash your magic, and live your wildest dreams.

On the TEDX Stage!

Watch Beth’s TEDx talk on YouTube TEDxABQ – here!

Doing a TED Talk has been on my bucket list for several years. I realize most people fear public speaking over death. Of course, I’m the opposite. I wanted to do this before I die. Like everything I do, I applied on a whim. I figured what can ‘they’ do but say no? Let’s just say I was surprised when two weeks later, I received the congratulations email. They said YES!

{Gulp}

Okay. I thought how hard can this be? I’ll write my talk, get on stage and yammer on for 10 minutes. I couldn’t have been more wrong. The TED journey has been one of the biggest challenges of my life. Seriously.

Twice a week for two months, we met as a group with four professional speaking coaches. Writing the talk, presenting, and feedback, editing the talk, rewriting the talk, presenting, and feedback. It went like that in an endless loop. For over 100 hours.

Did I mention the tears, frustration, freakin’ fear, and questioning the meaning of life…and why the hell did I want to do this? Someone, anyone, please remind me!

Because it’s my mission to empower women to stop sleepwalking and live their dreams. Period.

I’ve learned many lessons through this process, which I’ll share later at great length, but I do know this for sure:

When you are serious about your dream and mission, nothing or no one will stop you. Not blood, sweat, tears, fears or any lame excuse. You will show up like a hangry Terminator on a bad hair day and will not stop until you achieve your goal.

When was the last time you felt THAT driven to succeed? Don’t sleepwalk lady. There’s too much life to be living out here. Join me on stage! The universe has your back. Stop waiting, Start now. It’s so worth it!

So…I have to ask you, are you going to fight for your happiness, or let another year pass you by wondering why you don’t have the life and career of your dreams? Give your inner-champion permission to ignite your own life revolution! – Beth Bryce, TEDxABQ Women 2018

 Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys saving women from living a mediocre life, taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.  Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution: How to Crush Fears. Unleash Your Magic and Live Your Wildest Dreams

 

The Journey Matters

Recently I was waiting in my Subaru for a tall ship to pass under an open drawbridge in Bay City, Michigan. Summers in Michigan are spectacular and this warm August day did not disappoint.  I put my car in park and took delight in being forced to pause for a while – a long while, it was a slow ship – while other people in traffic didn’t appear to be as pleased as I.  I briefly watched my frustrated neighbors feel stuck, shake their heads, throw up their arms, and mindlessly play with their phones.  Nobody was going anywhere fast.

With great joy, I diverted my attention to the sun setting over the water, children playing at a nearby park, a couple biking with a chunky dog along the Saginaw River, and puffy clouds lazily drifting across a fading, turquoise blue sky.  I’m proud to say I didn’t scroll through my iPhone once.  As the drawbridge began slowly descending – as we knew it eventually would – I reflected on how this happens so many times in our own lives.

Love is the bridge between you and everything. – Rumi

We rush too much.  Rush through our 20s and 30s.  Blink through our 40s.  We rush to achieve that big goal and on to the next.  We rush for fear of staying stuck.  Now in my 50s, I understand being stuck is a choice.  The sun will rise and set. The drawbridge will open and close.  My dears, you might as well enjoy the peace in simply being.  Make sure you’re watching the sunset, children playing, and the clouds drift by.  This moment matters.  The journey matters.  Your joy matters.  Yes, dare I say, even more than the goal itself.

 

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys saving women from living a mediocre life, taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.  Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution: How to Crush Fears. Unleash Your Magic and Live Your Wildest Dreams

 

Gut Check Your Impact

 

Regardless of the type of organization you work at, you will likely find core values and/or a mission statement visible on the walls. But does your organization have an impact manifesto? The word “impact” sounds powerful, even if you utter it under your breath. That’s because working intentionally to deliver impact is powerful.

I’m a fortunate soul. My vocation as a career coach has me guiding others on a daily basis. In fact, doing purposeful work was the primary driver in my transformative career switch from accounting to counseling in 2012. The former was lacking significantly in the impact arena. Since my soul was melting into a puddle on the floor, I decided to change course. Pursuing impactful work that I’m passionate about has been one of the best decisions of my life. The sacrifices are worth it; the rewards are tremendous. It’s what I wish for you.

Fast forward to the present day. Immersed in the belief that I had been making a significant impact through my work, I received a wakeup call. Don’t you just love those?

“To those who are given much, much is expected.” – Maya Angelou

I recently attended a talk led by the founder of Work Alchemy, Ursula Jorch. She challenged us to make an even bigger impact on our work, community, and the world. Jorch posed three simple questions to gut check the level of impact we’re personally and professional making.

  1. How can you make a bigger impact inside of your business?
  2. How can you and/or your business make a bigger impact serving the community?
  3. How can you and/or your business make a global impact?

These are great starters for a strategic planning session leaning in at the table for your business, with a team or just you.

I’m not suggesting you leave your current employer.  However, you must live your life with intention.  Chances are if you are reading this article you are well educated with special talents and abilities.  You can find ways to be impactful outside of your employment.  In fact, you should.  You have an obligation to do so.

It doesn’t have to cost a cent but it will cost your time, energy, and pieces of your heart. Volunteer in your community, mentor, donate your services, or raise a phenomenal child who clearly will save the world. (Well, the latter will cost you boatloads of money and your entire heart; I lied.)

Be honest: Not everyone has had the opportunities that you’ve had. It’s your duty to give back and make a difference. We need you. You can do more. Begin today.

 

To find more information on designing your own Impact Manifesto, download The Impact Manifesto and nab other free resources, visit https://www.workalchemy.com/free-resources

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys saving women from living a mediocre life, taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.  Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution: How to Crush Fears. Unleash Your Magic and Live Your Wildest Dreams

 

Shut up and write

I’m fresh off a week long writing seminar at the Santa Fe Writers Lab, nestled on the edge of the Santa Fe National Forest – with the masterful writing teacher, Natalie Goldberg – I’m still trying to digest what happened. I figured the week would be easy and fun, sharing our writing, followed with gushing about how fabulous our prose was. Right on? Not so much.

We wrote our asses off for hours each day. Hours. Bared our souls. Read aloud through tears in a circle of 30 participants whose only instructions were to hold space and listen as our voices quivered. Just l-i-s-t-e-n.

Wash, rinse, repeat.

My frustration was palpable. What? No validation as a writer? No cheers about how witty I am? What I discovered was this: There is something totally freeing about writing without judgment. Writing to just speak whatever you think and feel, unedited and raw. What a concept! In a society where we are driven by ‘likes’ and asking am I good enough, I now get what Natalie wished for us:

To simply write for pure pleasure.  This is the practice.

If you write, you are a writer. To hell with the number of followers, published pieces and the Nobel Literature Prize. I’d say the same thing goes for anything you do my lovely friend: if you paint, you’re a painter. If you sing, you’re a singer. If you cook, you’re a chef. Give yourself permission to ‘be’ without judgment from anyone, including you.

And whatever you do, don’t wait until you feel you’re ‘good enough’ to share your writing, to show your paintings, to sing for an audience or to cook a seven-course meal for someone, anyone.

Just shut up and write. ~ Natalie Goldberg

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.  Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution: How to Crush Fears. Unleash Your Magic and Live Your Wildest Dreams

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