Category: Career Coaching

The Not-So-Obvious Winning Edge

What if you could miraculously wake up tomorrow and transform every area of your life? There is a ‘not-so-obvious’ secret that is guaranteed to do this faster than you ever thought possible. Hal Elrod, the author of The Miracle Morning, promises that it only takes six minutes a day. Seriously?

One of the most important concepts ever discovered in the field of human performance is called the “winning edge concept.” This concept states that “small differences in ability can translate into enormous differences in results.” Simply, how you wake up each day dramatically affects your level of success in every single area of your life. Intentional mornings generate productive days leading to a stellar life. Why would you ever choose mediocracy?

An extraordinary life is all about daily, continuous improvements in the areas that matter most. – Robin Sharma

For you to stop settling for less than you deserve and to create the level of personal, professional, and financial success you desire, you must dedicate time each day to becoming qualified and capable of creating what you want.

Hal’s advice begins with establishing a morning routine of six practices for six minutes:

1.   Silence – Get grounded. Sit in silence, meditate and focus on your breath to achieve clarity and peace of mind.

2.   Affirmation – Jot down what you want and why, who you are committed to being, and what you’re committed to doing to change your life. Read daily.

3.   Visualization – Align your thoughts and feelings with your vision. Mentally rehearse what it feels like to achieve your future goals.

4.   Exercise – Motion creates energy. Manage your emotions, enhance your health, self-confidence, and mental acuity.

5.   Learning – Read something for your personal development from experts, those who have done what you want to do.

6.   Writing – Journal. Get your thoughts down on paper to gain valuable insights, ideas, breakthroughs, and lessons learned.

Whether you’re an early bird or night owl, how you spend the first hour of your day becomes key to unlocking your full potential and creating the amazing life and career you desire. When you create a morning practice, you change your entire life. My friend, it’s worth passing on the snooze button. Rise up!

Resource: The Miracle Morning: The not so obvious secret guaranteed to transform your life before 8 AM, by Hal Elrod.

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.  She enjoys saving women from living a mediocre life, taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order. Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution: How to crush your fears, unleash your magic, and live your wildest dreams.

Stay in Your Lane

As discussed in the Entrepreneur article, “Why Powerful Professional Women Don’t Compare Themselves,” social media is a tool meant for connection, but it also has the power to derail the most secure woman with isolation, anxiety, and depression.

Face it, we’re bombarded daily with images of aspirational women who are fit, fabulous, and fearless – with the perfect career and relationships and ‘slaying’ their business.  It’s one version of the truth, the happy version. It’s a comparison trap.

Comparison can lead us down a slippery slope and an immediate reaction to throw a pity party, feel resentful, or inadequate.  We’ve all felt a tinge of this at some point, be honest.  It’s no fun being transported back to middle school not hanging out with the cool kids.  I can testify, I wasn’t a ‘cool kid’ but rather bullied and grew up to embrace my inner-champion.

The truth is confident, self-assured women are focused on their own game.  They are hustling, ambitious, working on goals, building authentic relationships, with no time to check the number of ‘likes’ in the rear-view mirror.  They’re too busy reaching for the stars and making a positive impact in the world.

Stay in your lane.  Comparison kills creativity and joy. Brene’ Brown

Comparison is a fundamental human impulse. While it’s difficult to shut it down completely, the next time you feel like a wallflower, remind yourself how phenomenal you are:

  1. Accomplishments: When you look back over your life/career, what are your top 3 biggest accomplishments? What are you most proud of recently?
  2. Strengths: What are your unique strengths? How do you use your superpowers to make a positive impact in the world?
  3. Creativity: If you could only accomplish one thing in your personal and professional life this year, what would that be?  Focus on your goal, sister.
  4. Joy: What brings you immense joy in your life and work?  No-brainer, schedule more joy time.

Girlfriend, mind your own business. In fact, I’m willing to bet you are pretty cool.  Do they even say ‘cool’ today?  Who cares?  You have places to be, people to see, and magic to create.  Stay in your lane.

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.  She enjoys saving women from living a mediocre life, taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order. Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution:  Crush your fears, unleash your magic, and live your wildest dreams.

Crush the Imposter Syndrome

If you experience the Imposter Syndrome because you’re doing well, it means you think success is for other people but not you. Stop telling yourself that lie.

More times than not, I’ve noticed when someone lands the job offer, wins a promotion or is granted an incredible opportunity, they seem shocked. After realizing their success, they freak out and start questioning their ability to deliver on their skills. Now {bleeping} what?

The Imposter Syndrome is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a “fraud.” While it’s commonly thought this applies to most women, recent studies show men equally experience this phenomenon. Men just don’t vocalize their feelings as much. Surprise, it’s genderless.

Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt like an imposter. Honestly, everyone does at some point in our career; young professionals, seasoned leaders, and bigwigs. It’s common for anyone who is reaching for the next level. The key is to recognize your crippling behaviors, feel the self-deprecating emotion and then crush it.

Here are four tips to help you overcome feeling unworthy:

1. Own your success: Stop downplaying past successes. Recognize and attribute them to your hard work. It’s not being in the ‘right place at the right time’ or knowing the right people. It’s your talent and tenacity that got you here.

2. Reduce procrastination: Fear of failure sits at the core of procrastination, not laziness. Having a detailed, action plan breaking up tasks into manageable pieces and deadlines will help alleviate fears and propel you forward.

3. Challenge perfectionism: While incredibly high standards produce exceptional results, it also brings intense stress and pressure. Stop micromanaging yourself and work on setting realistic standards, rather than superhuman. Knock it off already.

4. Talk to others: Having a support network is critical. Speak up to someone you trust when you don’t understand something or have made a mistake. Peers and friends can help you feel normal, boost your confidence and share lessons that they’ve learned along the way.

We both know the success you’ve achieved isn’t because of luck. You’ve worked hard and crushed your goals. As my wonderful mentor, Terry Duperon, told me, “Don’t be the one thing that stands in your own way. Nothing can stop you, but you.”

Stop lying to yourself. Yes, you are THAT good.

For more support on increasing your confidence and whipping the Imposter Syndrome check out these books: Presence: Bringing your boldest self to your biggest challenges, by Amy Cuddy and The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women, by Valerie Young

Resource: National Career Development Association, Winter 2018, Volume 35, 1

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.  She enjoys saving women from living a mediocre life, taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order. Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution: How to crush fears, unleash your magic, and live your wildest dreams.

Gut Check Your Impact

 

Regardless of the type of organization you work at, you will likely find core values and/or a mission statement visible on the walls. But does your organization have an impact manifesto? The word “impact” sounds powerful, even if you utter it under your breath. That’s because working intentionally to deliver impact is powerful.

I’m a fortunate soul. My vocation as a career coach has me guiding others on a daily basis. In fact, doing purposeful work was the primary driver in my transformative career switch from accounting to counseling in 2012. The former was lacking significantly in the impact arena. Since my soul was melting into a puddle on the floor, I decided to change course. Pursuing impactful work that I’m passionate about has been one of the best decisions of my life. The sacrifices are worth it; the rewards are tremendous. It’s what I wish for you.

Fast forward to the present day. Immersed in the belief that I had been making a significant impact through my work, I received a wakeup call. Don’t you just love those?

“To those who are given much, much is expected.” – Maya Angelou

I recently attended a talk led by the founder of Work Alchemy, Ursula Jorch. She challenged us to make an even bigger impact on our work, community, and the world. Jorch posed three simple questions to gut check the level of impact we’re personally and professional making.

  1. How can you make a bigger impact inside of your business?
  2. How can you and/or your business make a bigger impact serving the community?
  3. How can you and/or your business make a global impact?

These are great starters for a strategic planning session leaning in at the table for your business, with a team or just you.

I’m not suggesting you leave your current employer.  However, you must live your life with intention.  Chances are if you are reading this article you are well educated with special talents and abilities.  You can find ways to be impactful outside of your employment.  In fact, you should.  You have an obligation to do so.

It doesn’t have to cost a cent but it will cost your time, energy, and pieces of your heart. Volunteer in your community, mentor, donate your services, or raise a phenomenal child who clearly will save the world. (Well, the latter will cost you boatloads of money and your entire heart; I lied.)

Be honest: Not everyone has had the opportunities that you’ve had. It’s your duty to give back and make a difference. We need you. You can do more. Begin today.

 

To find more information on designing your own Impact Manifesto, download The Impact Manifesto and nab other free resources, visit https://www.workalchemy.com/free-resources

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys saving women from living a mediocre life, taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.  Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution: How to Crush Fears. Unleash Your Magic and Live Your Wildest Dreams

 

Shut up and write

I’m fresh off a week long writing seminar at the Santa Fe Writers Lab, nestled on the edge of the Santa Fe National Forest – with the masterful writing teacher, Natalie Goldberg – I’m still trying to digest what happened. I figured the week would be easy and fun, sharing our writing, followed with gushing about how fabulous our prose was. Right on? Not so much.

We wrote our asses off for hours each day. Hours. Bared our souls. Read aloud through tears in a circle of 30 participants whose only instructions were to hold space and listen as our voices quivered. Just l-i-s-t-e-n.

Wash, rinse, repeat.

My frustration was palpable. What? No validation as a writer? No cheers about how witty I am? What I discovered was this: There is something totally freeing about writing without judgment. Writing to just speak whatever you think and feel, unedited and raw. What a concept! In a society where we are driven by ‘likes’ and asking am I good enough, I now get what Natalie wished for us:

To simply write for pure pleasure.  This is the practice.

If you write, you are a writer. To hell with the number of followers, published pieces and the Nobel Literature Prize. I’d say the same thing goes for anything you do my lovely friend: if you paint, you’re a painter. If you sing, you’re a singer. If you cook, you’re a chef. Give yourself permission to ‘be’ without judgment from anyone, including you.

And whatever you do, don’t wait until you feel you’re ‘good enough’ to share your writing, to show your paintings, to sing for an audience or to cook a seven-course meal for someone, anyone.

Just shut up and write. ~ Natalie Goldberg

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.  Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution: How to Crush Fears. Unleash Your Magic and Live Your Wildest Dreams

Hoof prints on my soul

Messengers come in all forms and this past weekend, it was a beautiful butterscotch mare named Gypsy with legs of different colors.   Did I mention her round, soulful eyes – mesmerizing deep chocolate pools beckoning me to release and dive in?

Gypsy

Any chance I get, I love visiting Lynn Clifford [horse and people whisperer extraordinaire] at Arrowhead Ranch for her evening equine meditation program.  It’s springtime at the ranch.  The evening is a tad cooler and the wind is just breezy enough to kiss my lips and muss my hair.  Yet warm enough to wear a simple blue jean jacket and ChapStick.

Lynn Clifford & Beth Bryce

 

The horses are quiet and winding down as they munch dinner with the sun descending ever so slowly.  They seem relaxed, pleased almost that they don’t have to work.  Their role is to simply bare witness, be a messenger, teacher, or confidant depending upon how we  show up.

The horses always try to meet you – but only if you are open and willing to introduce your truest self.

Honestly, half the time I watch the other 13 women in silent, walking meditation, and one brave man, as they timidly approach and mingle with the horses pushing boundaries.  Mostly the horses push boundaries, some of us push back.  That’s the beauty of the evening, we have a choice.

But don’t you always have a choice through the twists and turns of life?

As I watch the ladies dance with their chosen partner, I wonder if they are tuned in and listening to the messages the horses are trying to whisper.  Are they brave enough to ask the question they’ve been avoiding for quite some time?

I wander back to my present moment and stare down Gypsy.  We stand face to face for ten minutes watching to see who blinks first.   I’m certain it was me.  I stood there searching for the answer, any answer, to a question I wasn’t even sure I was asking.

Beth’s message depicted

Suddenly, Gypsy’s message was clear, “You already know the answer Beth, you must press on – the world needs more love and compassion, people are waiting.”  In that moment I was flooded with the faces of people I’ve been blessed to work with, family, friends I haven’t talked to in months, some years, all of whom I love.  Deeply.

I realized they are like hoof prints on my soul.  Our exchanges, however brief or long, are imprinted forever.  And for that I’m extremely grateful.  Isn’t that what we are all seeking; deep connection?  I believe so.  On that note, I drove home with a simple smile and a sense of renewal, gazing at the pink and purple mystic New Mexican sunset – like only New Mexico effortlessly delivers.

What or who has been your messenger recently? 

Are you paying attention? 

And how are you living your heart wide open?

Sound fascinating even intriguing?  I encourage you to seriously consider an opportunity of a lifetime to be cracked wide open on a journey of self-discovery at my October Santa Fe retreat, with Lynn and her tribe of horses, Susan Perry and myself.  The magic is beginning, that is, if you choose to show up as your truest self.  I hope you do, the world is waiting on you.

 

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.  Beth is currently working on her book, Ignite Your Life Revolution: How to Crush Fears. Unleash Your Magic and Live Your Wildest Dreams

Women, Find your inner champion

“We are each responsible for our own life.  If you’re holding anyone else accountable for your happiness, you’re wasting your time.” – Oprah Winfrey

Women are more empowered than ever to rise up, find their voice and take personal responsibility.  Following the headlines on women’s rights and marches, #MeToo, and Oprah’s riveting speech at the 2018 Golden Globes declaring, “A new day is on the horizon”, I’m wondering will we choke on missed opportunity?  We each have a responsibility to be living our best lives, unencumbered by limitations set by others and ourselves.  How are you creating a personal life revolution?

Ten years ago I started my Master’s thesis on the differences in gender leadership to prove women make better leaders.  My results were surprising.  Women and men are equally successful leaders with different skills.  However, men are perceived as superior leaders by both genders, men and women.  Ouch.  Little has changed from my thesis recommendations encouraging women to take personal responsibility for their career advancement.  Ten years of coaching professional women, I’ve witnessed their struggles regardless of background and education.  The top things that block women from advancing are: a lack of self-worth, self-promotion, and personal leadership.

Self-worth – Settling for a mediocre career or not getting paid fairly is directly tied to your self-worth and lack of confidence.  Women are 8x less likely to ask for more money than men.  Salary negotiation, annual reviews, and promotions are opportunities to ask.  Did you know management’s perception of a woman that doesn’t ask for more is she’s not leadership material or intelligent?  Ouch.  Do market research, take a negotiation class, or phone a friend.  Practice in the mirror and repeat after me, “I am worthy.”

Self-promotion – Women work hard.  However, we make the mistake by assuming this equals recognition and reward.  We get angry after an abysmal increase or being passed over for a promotion.  You must learn how to discuss your awesomeness, stellar contributions and your expectations.  Your boss is busy, you can’t assume they know you should be nominated for employee of the year.  Chances are they haven’t seen you in weeks. Start by having a courageous conversation asking for regular 1:1 monthly meetings.  Courageous conversations are politically correct right now.

Personal Leadership – It’s not enough to take action, women must be strategic.  I often hear, ‘I’m too busy.”  While you’re busy taking care of everyone but you, your competition is mining for opportunities, networking with successful people, building teams, and becoming visible. Men do this exceptionally well.  Don’t wait for someone to miraculously hand you a new job or promotion; it’s all on you.

Yes, a new day is dawning.  Will you seize this historical moment and fight for your career success or sit on the sidelines, letting another day pass you by wondering why you don’t have the career of your dreams, aren’t being treated fairly or getting paid your worth?  As the media frequently touts, 2018 is the Year of the Woman!  You officially have permission to find your inner-champion.  I expect nothing less.

 

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.

Hustling in the ‘Gig’ Economy

We are now part of the ‘hustling class,’ always looking for work, evaluating and updating our skills and value, and staying aware of potential future opportunities. – Diane Mulcahy, author, The Gig Economy

Today more than a third of Americans are working in the ‘Gig’ Economy – mixing together short-term jobs, contract work and freelance assignments.  Recent surveys shows nearly 70 million America workers, 43% of the total US labor force, work independently to some degree. Nearly 50 million do it by choice.

No surprise here, workers freed from the constraints of office life report higher levels of satisfaction and greater productivity.  For the brave souls who chose this lifestyle, life has never been better as it offers more freedom, flexibility and work-life balance. For others, the work is risky as they struggle to cobble together sufficient ‘gigs’ to survive and seek self-funded insurance and retirement options.

Succeeding in it starts with a mindset of owning your own career trajectory.  Next is leveraging your skills, knowledge and network to create a portfolio of gigs. Workers who possess strong technical, management, leadership, or creative abilities are best positioned to create a working life that incorporates flexibility, autonomy, and meaning.

Up for it?  Start with building a portfolio of gigs – It’s easier if you have a full-time job or a significant contract assignment to anchor your portfolio.  Not every gig has to pay, they can be volunteer positions that allow you to explore an interest, learn a skill, or pursue a passion.  Here are four types of gigs:

  1. Gigs to get your foot in the door – Not sure how to break into a new field? Find a part-time gig that offers the opportunity to begin the process of meeting and collaborating with people in a new industry or sector.
  2. Gigs to experiment – Use gigs to test opportunities, either continue to invest more time if it’s successful or move on to something else if it’s not.
  3. Gigs to learn by doing – Learn on the job, at your own pace, in lower-risk situations to gain practice and be comfortable enough to smoothly transition to that role.
  4. Gigs to do what you really want to do – Pursue what you’ve always wanted to do to avoid the deferred life plan. The deferred life plan refers to focusing on things we ‘should’ do, while deferring the things we really want to do until…someday (which may never arrive).  There’s a significant chance that we’ll get so caught up in the trappings of the life (the title, the compensation, the position) that we’ll later find it difficult to step away to purse the dream.

The ‘Gig’ Economy is here folks, growing quickly and showing no signs of reversing.  It will continue to grow according to employer surveys as talent scarcity, readily available part times, automations and robotics, and global workforce alternatives become even more prevalent.  Independent work and services will be in higher demand from both individuals and employers.

Good news, the new American dream is evolving in a way that allows people to access the lifestyle they want focusing more on a quality of life consisting of time and experiences rather than a quantity of stuff.  If you have an entrepreneurial mindset, start hustling now, build your portfolio and pursue the career and lifestyle of your dreams.  Speaking from experience, it’s so worth it!

This was adapted from “The Gig Economy:  The Complete Guide to Getting Better Work, Taking More Time Off, and Financing the Life You Want: 2016 Diane Mulcahy

Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.

Seeking Career Clarity?

crossroads

Countless people in their 30s, 40s and beyond have told me, “I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up?” Nervous laughter usually follows – on their end. Even so, it’s a very serious question not to be taken lightly. Most find it difficult to answer my question, “So, what do you want to do?” I’ve discovered it’s easier for folks to answer what they don’t want to do.

Through trial and error, people become crystal clear on what they don’t like; toxic work environments, unfair pay, bad bosses, and boring job duties. In fact, all day long we can yammer about what makes us miserable – to anyone that will listen! So again, what do you want to do? Insert the sound of crickets here.

This two column exercise can help you gain clarity on your next career move:

  1. Column One: Start with a list of what youdon’t want in your career makeup, including length of commute, type of manager and co-workers, industries you have no business being in, lots of evening/weekend hours, no health care, travel. Enjoy your cubicle? You get the picture.
  2. Move on to what kind of work makes you cringe. Working on spreadsheets for hours works for some, but not me. Do you dislike sales? Public speaking? Managing people?
  3. Column Two: Reflect on the exact opposite outlined in column one. Write it down, line by line. Not happy with $60K a year? Column two will be +$65K. The more details, the closer you’ll get.

Perhaps you had a dream, started down a path only to realize later that it’s not what you imagined. Definitely, no one wants to start all over again at square one. Years have passed, families started, homes purchased, and responsibilities have grown. It’s not only difficult to figure out what you love, it’s even harder to pursue. Getting clear on what you don’t want may lead you to your passion. Take it from me, it’s worth the pursuit. The best part is you don’t have to start at square one. You just have to start.

 Not all who wander are lost. – J.R.R. Tolkien

 Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.

Is it Time to Leap?

Leap

Does this sound like your current job?  You aren’t exactly happy, but you aren’t unhappy enough to do anything about it?  Studies show that approximately 70% of people agree.  Standing in between misery and bliss is officially called “being in a rut”.   While it may be comfortable, it’s also painful.  Sadly, most people are okay knowing tomorrow is going to be just another “meh” day because at least they know what to expect.   Do you really want a lifetime of utter boredom?

You might be stuck in a rut without even realizing it. Here are five powerful questions to help you understand whether it’s time for you to make a leap.

  1. Does this job allow me to work with “my tribe” – people I respect who share my values and agree on what matters or do I have to put on a mask to get through the day?
  2. Does this job provide opportunities for growth that stretch and challenge me or am I just aimlessly circling around on auto-pilot on an empty tank of gas?
  3. Does this job, because of my responsibilities, set me up to launch into future positions that advance my career?
  4. Does this job compensate me fairly based upon my education, talents, and skills, and the value I bring to the organization?
  5. Does this job – the daily tasks that I actually do, fill my heart and feed my soul in meaningful ways?

While the answers to these questions have a different level of importance for each of us, the answer to No. 5 is a must. Your work must matter to you on a deep level that gives purpose to your life.  If you aren’t feeling the love, you must be relentless.  Investigate careers, ask yourself hard questions, and take risks.  If you aren’t stretching, you aren’t growing.  If you aren’t growing, then ultimately you are dying inside.  I vote for stretching and growing.  How about you?

Life leaps like a geyser for those who drill through the rock of inertia. ~ Alexis Carrel

 Beth Bryce is a Career Strategist, Transformation Catalyst, and Founder of Daring Circle Ranch leading others through their own Life Revolution.   She enjoys taking risks, getting lost in the woods, pizza, and her Jack Russell Terrier – not necessarily in that order.

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